Guest Momhood Blogger Andrea shares: How to Prioritize Your Wellbeing Without Feeling Selfish

One of my favorite things about my daughter is watching how fearless she is when learning a new skill. She has zero hesitation when it comes to trying something new—whether it’s hopping on a bike without training wheels or flipping on the uneven bars in gymnastics. She falls more times than I can count, but she always gets right back up and keeps trying until she masters it.

I admire her fearless approach to life, and as a mom, I try my best not to overcompensate by projecting my own fears onto her. Let’s face it: it’s the outside pressure, comments, and beliefs that make us question our own abilities. Conscious parenting means being aware of how our actions and words shape our children’s beliefs about the world—and most importantly, what they believe about themselves.

Sadly, many of us moms have been taught that prioritizing ourselves is selfish. We're programmed to believe that being a "good mom" means sacrificing our needs and putting ourselves last. Society tells us that success looks like a clean, organized home, a full glam look at school drop-off, and children who are athletic, smart, and gifted. It’s as if we need to have it all together and make it look easy—all without help. No wonder parental burnout is at an all-time high!

But here's the good news: There are ways to take action against burnout and still prioritize your wellbeing without feeling guilty.

How I Help Moms Achieve Guilt-Free Wellbeing

As a yoga therapist and conscious parenting coach, I help moms achieve guilt-free wellbeing through personalized, holistic treatment plans that combine therapeutic yoga with conscious parenting coaching.

Stress itself isn’t the problem—it’s the physical response to stress that creates burnout. When we’re constantly in "people-pleasing" mode, neglecting our own needs, we never fully complete the stress cycle. Our bodies need to feel safe and supported in order to complete that cycle and release stress. Without that, we stay stuck in a cycle of tension, fatigue, and burnout.

I guide moms in unlocking the stress cycle through mindfulness, personalized wellness plans, and ongoing coaching. I use a framework in yoga that works on the physical, mental, energetic, subconscious, and soul levels. This combined with conscious parenting coaching addresses every aspect of you—allowing us to create a goal-oriented approach to your wellness. And let me tell you, we often end up accomplishing even more than we set out to do. There’s nothing more powerful than a mom who is determined to prioritize herself!

3 Ways to Prioritize Your Wellbeing Without Feeling Selfish

1. Reframe Self-Care: It’s Not Just for You, It’s for Your Family

Caring for yourself is a key part of taking care of your family. Through conscious parenting coaching, meditation, and mindfulness practices, we shift the belief that self-care is indulgent. Self-care is essential for your health and wellbeing, and it’s an investment in your ability to be there for your family. When you’re rested, nourished, and balanced, you’re more present, patient, and energized for your kids.

Remember: kids learn more from how we live than from what we say. So, by practicing self-care, you’re not only improving your own life—you’re modeling healthy habits for your children, too.

2. Integrate Self-Care into Your Daily Routine

Self-care doesn’t always require a 90-minute yoga class or an afternoon at the spa. There are simple, evidence-based practices that only take a few minutes and can make a world of difference. You don’t need a big chunk of time to complete your stress cycle.

A simple breathing exercise in the morning, before school drop-off, or after dinner can shift your energy and mindset. This helps you stay present with your kids and calm the mental noise that often distracts us as moms. Just 5 minutes of focused breathing or meditation can make all the difference in your day.

3. Join Supportive Communities

Don’t try to do this alone! Connecting with other moms who value self-care is key to staying motivated and supported. Whether it’s a local group or an online community, being part of a supportive network can help you remember that you’re not alone in your journey. Ask for recommendations in a local Facebook group, try a new wellness practice, and share experiences with others. Self-care doesn’t have to be a solo act—it can be a community effort.

Bonus Tip: You’re a Role Model—So Lead by Example

When you prioritize your own wellbeing, you set a positive example for your children. They learn the importance of self-care, emotional regulation, and healthy boundaries from you. Taking care of yourself is a powerful way to show your kids how to take care of themselves—physically, emotionally, and mentally.

Think of it this way: When you take time for yourself, you’re filling your cup. When your cup is full, you have more to give to others. When your cup is empty, you’re running on fumes—and can’t pour into others. Prioritizing self-care is a way of ensuring that you have the energy, patience, and presence to be the best mom you can be.

What’s Your Self-Care Practice?

For me, self-care is my mini-yoga practice, meditation, CrossFit, Jiu-Jitsu, and giving back to my community of moms! What about you? What practices help you feel energized, grounded, and whole?

So mama, wear all the sparkles, dance like no one’s watching, chase your dreams, try a new workout, learn to meditate, practice breathwork—and do it for YOU. Watch how your commitment to yourself sets a powerful example for your kids.

Ready to Learn More?

Curious about how yoga therapy and conscious parenting coaching can help you? Reach out to me at andrea@momentformom.com—I’d love to chat!

With love,
Andrea